Kylie is a British expat that has been living in Iowa, USA for the past 4 years. Her day job is a preschool assistant and in her spare time she blogs at Between England and Iowa!
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Nicole (Host): Welcome to the moving roadmap podcast powered by Avvinue. My name is Nicole, and I'll be your host for the show. In this episode, we're excited to introduce our guests Kylie Neuhaus. Kylie is a British expat that has been living in Iowa, USA for the past four years. And her day job is a preschool assistant, and in her spare time she blogs @betweenEnglandand Iowa. Welcome to the show Kylie.
Kylie Neuhaus: Thank you for having me.
Nicole (Host): So from the UK, right, and now living in the US, wonderful. Was this your first expat experience?
Kylie Neuhaus: Back in 2008, I actually worked on a summer camp in upstate New York for three months. That was obviously only like a short stint. But um, yeah, this is like my first big move abroad. Yes.
Nicole (Host): Love it. So when did you move? I moved in August 2016. All right, so exciting. So tell me how did you know? Or when did you make the decision that you wanted to move abroad?
Kylie Neuhaus: It was kind of made for me in a way I had met an American while I was on vacation in Jamaica, and we ended up doing the whole long distance thing. And the only way the relationship was going to work was if one of us relocated to another country. And it happened to be me about a year and a half into the relationship. That's when I decided that you know, we should probably move to the same country.
Nicole (Host): But what an exciting vacation in Jamaica and you meet someone so that is so awesome. Love it. So okay, so how long did it take you to feel ready to move? Once you're like, Okay, you know what, I need to make this decision if we want to be together. How long did it take you to make that?
Kylie Neuhaus: It was something that we spoke about kind of early on, it was almost like, do we even try with a relationship? If one of us isn't planning on moving into something that was kind of in the back of our mind, almost from the beginning that that was potentially what was going to happen? And obviously from when I said, Yes, I would move, we then had to then start thinking about visas and the logistics of how to do that and whether I was going to move on a fiance visa or marriage visa. So it was a good, or nearly two years, I guess, from the point of me deciding and then may actually stepping on the plane. So it was a while. Wow.
Nicole (Host): Yeah, I mean, in two years, you probably were trying to figure out wrapping up everything. And so kind of like walk us through what were some of the steps you took like to leave the UK and head over to Iowa.
Kylie Neuhaus: So the first thing was obviously decided about the visa process. And there's really only main to the US, as I said it was either the fiance visa where you move and then you get 90 days to get married. And even then you have to go for Adjustment of Status, you found work or anything like that while it's going through. Or there's the marriage visa where you enter in, and you can start working from day one. So we decided to go for the marriage route, just then I keep working in the UK. And then as soon as I got here, I could carry on work and there was like no gap in finance. It's a start. And then obviously then we had to then go through the whole getting married. Then about two weeks after we got married. That's when we started the visa process, which took almost a year. And then obviously you've got the whole thing of like quitting your job. Closing every account from back home and selling cars and packing up all yourself. That's quite a long road.
Nicole (Host): Yeah, absolutely. So did you move any of your furniture anything during that move? Or did you just sell everything?
Kylie Neuhaus: Oh, my furniture is currently in storage in the UK still. I literally just moved with suitcases, like one bag with clothes and then another bag with like, personal possessions that I didn't want to get rid of. And I kind of wanted to take with me. Yeah, not a lot of luggage. I kind of started from scratch when I moved there.
Nicole (Host): Yeah, absolutely. A whole new life. Right? Oh, my goodness. So exciting. Um, so what were some of the challenging aspects of your move? And you mentioned it was like a two year process and a lot of different things. But was there anything that stood out as like really just a challenging part of the move?
Kylie Neuhaus: So the biggest part for us was that after we got married, we actually only had a week together in the same country because he decided to fly over to England. So we had like the two weeks in England. We got married. We then had a week together. And then he had to come back to us while my visa was going through. So we were like a married couple, but we weren't even together. So we had one week to get married and then we're apart for nearly another year. So I guess that was like the biggest challenge in that sense. But then obviously, there's been like packing by the morning of by flight, I realized that one of my bags was overweight. And then I was like frantically trying to repack and balance out the weight of it. So yeah, but the biggest part was, I guess, was the visa. That was the biggest challenge.
Nicole (Host): Yeah, for sure. Well, I'm pretty sure everyone listening has done the bag, overweight repacking situation, that's just part of the adrenaline rush. When traveling, but crazy to hear you know that you weren't together for another year or two, long distance relationships are very tough. So to hear, you know, you were able to make that journey, do all the things needed to move abroad, and, you know, to make everything work and props to you. That's amazing. Thank you. So what were some things that maybe you didn't expect during your move, so maybe even culturally, now as your first time moving abroad, so anything that really just did not expect to happen?
Kylie Neuhaus: I was surprised by how much of a cultural difference there was, beign obviously, England and America like, I'm lucky enough that I don't really have the language barrier or anything. But I find that there are a lot of cultural differences just in like the way of life and the way people think. And so that has been quite hard, where almost something's don't make sense to me. And I know that I've kind of just got to accept it because this is where I'm living. So that is quite a big, like shock. I do have different just like the mentalities more so than anything else. And the weather as well. The winters, we had a winter where it got down like minus 50 Celsius, which is almost like minus 50 Fahrenheit as well. And that was so cold. I didn't realize mainland America got that cold. I thought that was like North Pole temperatures.That was really cold.
Nicole (Host): Yeah, my goodness. Yeah, definitely. cultural difference for sure. And it's interesting, even how you said, even though there's no language difference, just the culture itself, the way people think the way of life very different, right? Yeah, really different.
Nicole (Host): Very cool. Thanks for sharing that, especially, you know, just hearing the cultural difference side. So now, like with your move, um, and I know, you mentioned you have things in storage. So is there a plan to ever go back? Or do you ever see yourself going to another country? I know you, you've been already 4 years in the States, but have you thought of any other journeys in the future?
Kylie Neuhaus: I definitely see England in my future. And it's always it's always going to be my home. I mean, I lived there for like 26, 27-years before I moved. So that's where my roots are. That's where like my wider family are. So for me, I would like to be back in England again, like I'm happy to do a longer travels. But I would like to have England as a base again, one day. Yeah, absolutely.
Nicole (Host): So and and now looking back in your move, and the two years it took just to get everything in place and all the logistics, even some of the workarounds, right in order to move, figuring out which visa was going to work. What would you have done differently in planning your move? And of course, this is really geared towards what kind of advice you have for some of our listeners who are also maybe planning their move. So some things you do differently, but kind of tying in what advice would you would you give Looking back?
Kylie Neuhaus:I probably wouldn't have saved packed as much as I did. I don't think I needed to take so much stuff with me, it wasn't even that much. It wasn't like I shipped anything, but for a while I hadn't even unpacked one of my suitcases that I bought, it's like, it just sat there in the corner of the room for a couple of years before I even unpacked it. Because I didn't need it. It was more things I have memories and it's like, I don't really like need it as much as like I already like the memories. Mm hmm. But by practicality, it's like it was just a suitcase full of stuff that I didn't unpack. I probably didn't really need anything like that. And with a visa I'm glad I took the visa that I did like looking back by I had a job interview that the day after I landed in America so it was quite nice that I could get straight into work as soon as I got here. And I didn't have to worry about where income was going to come from it's like I was quite lucky in that sense. So I'm happy with a visa I think, yeah there when it comes to luggage. I think looking back I don't think I would have bought as much over.
Nicole (Host): Very great advice and also for people who are considering it's always a tricky decision on like what should you take you know what is absolutely necessary and we hear a lot of that of packing too much and and how important it is to like really downsize to the most important things that you need so that you know you don't have been sitting around and and probably sometimes a headache just getting in the airport and transporting with you.
Kylie Neuhaus:I was lucky that when I moved, my family came over with me like, because I had never been to Iowa. They came with me and I did do some like their luggage allowance as well. So I had people to help me like carry this my staff. Oh, great. So I had that as a help. But yeah, if you don't obviously have like a whole crew traveling with you. And you've got to do it all by yourself or yeah, you only have only you don't have two off.
Nicole (Host): Yeah. Exactly. That's how it was for my husband and I when we move. You know, we both had two suitcases, but then it was tricky. Just Okay, well, how are we going to navigate this? Or if things are getting heavy or tricky? It was like okay, well, this is it. Like you have to carry your bars. Yeah, exactly. Yeah. So All right, great. hearing your story and your journey. I always like to wrap up with just like this random question. Where's the city you visited?
Kylie Neuhaus: I always have a self love for London. It took me moving away to realize just how much I loved it. But further afield. I really love Sydney, Australia. Yeah. Just saying like the Opera House and the harbour bridge for the first time it's going like why like them iconic landmarks as well. I'm here, I'm on the other side of the world. And that was always like one of the bucket list days I really wanted to be there and it didn't let me down. So I love London.
Nicole (Host): Love it. Thanks so much. So thanks so much for sharing your journey with us. I'm sure all of our listeners are just, you know, taking in all of the the specific journey that you had, you know, with getting married and moving. You know, we all have different ways of being able to take an adventure abroad and it's great. You met your partner in on a vacation. So yeah, never know where, where you'll meet your special someone. So love that story. And hopefully to your your journey will continue. And you'll end up back in the UK where your heart is. Yeah, thank you for having me. Yeah. So how can our listeners find you on social?
Kylie Neuhaus: And I have my website, where I talk about expat life, which is www.betweenenglandiowa.com. I'm also on Instagram and Twitter. My handle is @EnglandinIowa. And then on Facebook. I'm @betweenEnglandandIowa on there too.
Nicole (Host): Perfect.Thanks so much. So anyone who's listening, you want to follow Kylie's story and journey. Be sure to find her there. And I'll also include it in the details of the podcast so people can click and go straight to your site. So thanks so much for joining the show.
Kylie Neuhaus: Yeah, thank you.